How to tell girls

If you are like me, and a bit shy around people you don't know (when you do know them, watch out! they cant get you to shut up.) you don't want to share the Turrners Secret with just anyone.(On another topic, the TSS conferences really has a way of opening a person up. Everyone there already knows, and has it to... the comraderie is amazing! but I digress...)
So. When you have friends, How do you choose WHEN to tell?  How do you  choose WHO to tell?  WHY do you tell?
I recently told a new-er friend, and she asked me how people react when you tell. I was blown away! Noone ever asked me that before, so I really wasn't prepared with the calm,cool,and witty answers I usually have.  (That IS a joke people! ha-ha) But, it did get me thinking.
 I should mention, I do have NLD, so I think about social things in a more scientific way then most people, I think.
Anyway, in answer to my questions, I think friendship (any relationship really, but especially girl's friendships. and thats what I am focusing on here, so) has several stages. They change slightly from relationship to relationship, and its diffrent with diffrent types of relationships, Like boy-girl friendship is different from a boy-girl romantic relationship...see where I am going here?  Good. So the stages are,
Talking face to face,
Facebook Friends
Chatting on Facebook
Texting stage
going to movies stage (or out to eat)
shopping together stage
Talking about your period stage
sleeping over (roomates) stage
bridesmaids/un-biological sister stage
and I usualy tell at the Roomates stage, But if you both have TS, that has a way of letting you skip a few stages.  I think Me and Ashley went right to the last stage.  But other TS girls I have known never got so deep. So obviously some elements of a "regular" (What is regular? Anyone know? Here I mean non TS related)  friendship apply.
So that is my take on when, but who do you tell?   I tell people, when I am ready.  Usually they are close to me already, and not telling is beginning to feel a bit like lying, or maybe a trust issue. (Ashley called it felling guilty, and better words I can not find.) Also, at the last TSS conference I went to, there was a seminar about this very topic.  The person speaking (who-find out from MOM) said that you don't have to tell, and indeed, shouldn't because, really? Its not a huge deal to them. So ask yourself if it is relevant.  That always stuck in my mind.  the relevant thing.  But I feel like I should tell, because, it is like a lie in my mind,
Well, I told a longtime friend, because, in my mind, we were at that stage.  We had been roomies for awhile, and it just felt right. (also, at the time I told her, it was dark, and I always feel like people get more personal quicker and easier in the dark-its like magic. I think the best conversations happen in the dark.)  That's why I told her when I did.  I was feeling a bit guilty as well.  She asked all the questions, and was so supportive (she is still jealous that i don't get zits very much) She helped me to see the lighter side of it all.
I told my newer roommate, because I wanted to get closer to her.  (yes, we were already at the roommate stage, but we skipped a lot of steps, for you guys paying attention to that)
I told my old friend because it was just time, and natural. 
I am trying to be more open with it.
So, when I tell people (the few I tell) I tell usually because it feel right, and is relevant to us. I have also used TS as a vehicle to get closer to a friend, and to prove a point (fail btw)
So, yea that is my view on female friendships,and TS. I know people who are more open about it then shy little me, so Internet Nomads, TS sisters, and families, tell me How, Who, and Why and When you tell people about TS. That's what comments are for! Also, take our poll, and head over to the TSS-US website!  Have a good day and Happy Reading!
PS-look at the new chat-box-thingie we have now! we will be haveing live chats on sundays at 6 central (my time) and 5 mst (ashley time) we hope to see you there!