When to Tell, That is the Question (not to mention who to tell...)

       Telling people that you have Turner Syndrome can be a sticky subject for girls with Turner Syndrome.  And it is even stickier when it comes to telling girl friends and telling guy friends, it is a totally different dynamic depending upon who you are telling.
       I am going to focus on how to tell girls in this post (we'll tackle telling boys later-which I have had some experience with,and it's really not that scary). Telling people how that you have Turner Syndrome is a very personal thing that lets that person into your life on a deeper level than they were before you told them, which can be very scary for people because when you open your self up to someone on that deep of a level, there is always the chance of getting hurt.
       I know that I was personally very scared that people would judge me or think that I was some kind of a freak, which didn't end up happening (you'd be surprised how supportive people are if you give them a chance!). The first group of friends that I told, I told involuntarily. I had a teacher tell her class that I had Turner Syndrome and one of my friends happened to be in that class. She pulled me to the side at lunch and told me that the teacher had told her class and I said that it was true. At that same lunch period, I had decided that since it wasn't so bad talking to my other friend about TS, I would tell the people that I ate lunch with regularly about my Turners. They all took it very well and I felt really good about telling them. And I think looking back, that teacher telling her class was the best thing that could have happened to me (although I didn't see that when I found out she'd told).
       I think a major sign that you're ready to tell someone is that you're totally and completely comfortable with that person and you feel guilty that you haven't told them about the TS yet. If you feel that that person will be understanding and supportive then go ahead and tell them! No matter how daunting of a task that seems to be( believe me, it is a lot easier to tell than you think it will be). The moral of this story is that, no matter how scary it seems that telling people will be, it is easier once you take the plunge and do it! I know, I know, you're probably thinking, "what does she know about how hard it will be for me to tell", but believe me, I was in your shoes once. You have to treat it like getting into a chilly pool, you don't walk into the water gradually, you jump in and get it over with as soon as possible.
     That 's all for this post, but I hope this helps you gather the courage to tell those people who mean the most to you in your life!