Kayla here! I'm sorry for the long absence between blogs! My life has taken a complicated turn with Hubby temporarily out of work. But that is a blog for another time.
As a TS girl, I have known my whole life that I couldn't conceive naturally and the risks for IVF with a donor egg were high. This can, at times, make it hard to relate to those in my support group. Most ladies there have tried for a long time to conceive before knowing there was as issue, and many continue to try with the help of a specialist only to be disappointed every month.
I can't imagine the heartache of going through trying to conceive like that! I mean, what a roller coaster! And the temptation is there to negate my own pain and struggle. "You've had your whole life to come to terms with this," my mind says, "Suck it up! Count yourself lucky not to go through what they do!"
Truth is though, that the pain of remaining childless is still very real for me. I was not prepared, at all, for how watching what feels like all my friends become parents. I have to remind myself that my pain and struggle is no less valid than any other infertile woman. While I may not go through the same struggles and treatments of those brave ladies who have had infertility thrust on them, my group to be an invaluable source of strength and understanding. Seeing things through their eyes has certainly helped me in my own life and has offered a fresh perspective. And that's always a good thing.
All that to say, if you have a group available or even just a friend without TS who is struggling to start a family, don't be afraid to jump in because you don't feel you belong. Relate where you can, and don't be afraid to share your story because it doesn't come with the same set of heartaches. Remember your already on common ground in wanting to start a family! I have found my support group to be beyond understanding despite my not sharing all their same experiences! So, reach out. If you can. If not for yourself, then for that person who may just need to know someone understands.
I hope someone gleams something from this. I know it has been something I've had to deal with, so maybe I'm not the only one.
Until next time my butterfly sisters!
2 comments:
Rosie thought for today
I may be short,but there is a lot of Love and Support within me to share.Sometimes I feel that children would relate to me,as I am on their level of size.In some cases,I may seem non-threatening to them.Many seem curious and inquisitive about me.I may help them learn that I am a person who is like them,eager to welcome any new discovery.
I enjoy the "family" support from my sisters.The TS group has made me realize the great "sisterhood" I share. It is sweet to know I am sharing my heart with people who go through the same experience I do; I take the title of a great disco song and believe
We are Family
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